Spilling The Beans

  • Things We Thought Were Normal… But Weren’t

    Things We Thought Were Normal… But Weren’t

    I couldn’t help but wonder... how many things have we accepted in bed simply because no one ever told us we deserved better? Somewhere between the bad high school sex ed, the rom-coms that fade to black, and the men...

  • Sex and the Gender Spectrum: A Love Letter to Trans Women’s Erogenous Zones

    Sex and the Gender Spectrum: A Love Letter to Trans Women’s Erogenous Zones

    I couldn’t help but wonder… when it comes to pleasure, why do we still treat the body like a pre-written script? Like a predictable novel where every touch follows the same well-worn path? For trans women, sexuality is often framed...

  • Turn Up The Heat: Wax Play

    Turn Up The Heat: Wax Play

    Wax play isn’t just about dripping hot wax; it’s about sensory exploration, anticipation, and turning up the heat (literally). Here are some  ways to use a body-safe wax play candle to enhance your pleasure.  1. Slow Drip Tease (The Classic)...

  • Things Your Long-Distance Sex Life is Missing (And How to Fix It)

    Things Your Long-Distance Sex Life is Missing (And How to Fix It)

    I couldn’t help but wonder… why does “out of sight” have to mean “out of sync” when it comes to long-distance intimacy? Just because your partner isn’t in the same zip code doesn’t mean your sex life has to suffer....

  • Queer Pleasure Beyond Penetration: Exploring Non-Traditional Intimacy

    Queer Pleasure Beyond Penetration: Exploring Non-Traditional Intimacy

    I couldn’t help but wonder… why is penetration so often considered the "main event" when it comes to sex? Especially in queer relationships, intimacy isn’t about following a heteronormative script—it’s about connection, sensation, and exploring pleasure on your own terms. For...

  • Can Women Separate Sex from Emotions?

    Can Women Separate Sex from Emotions?

    I couldn’t help but wonder… why is it that when men have casual sex, it’s just sex, but when women do it, it’s assumed we’re searching for love? Is it biology, social conditioning, or just another double standard we’re supposed...

ODDETTE

  • What To Do When You’re Doing It (Wrong)

    What To Do When You’re Doing It (Wrong)

    @odd1ty In the midst of sex with my boyfriend, I had a realization that sort of took the wind out of my sails. Being the one on top, I opened my eyes to watch him enjoying himself, and thought ‘oh,...

  • I’ve Never Had an Orgasm

    I’ve Never Had an Orgasm

    @odd1ty ODETTE …At least not in my relationship. I love my boyfriend to bits, and you all know I’m more than willing to wax poetic about how good we have it. And the thing is, I’ve never had a long...

  • Entirely Un-Sexy Escape Rooms

    Entirely Un-Sexy Escape Rooms

    @odd1ty Odette Or otherwise known as ‘adult stores’ with stuff like ‘XXX’ on all the windows. Let's be clear—I am a timid person by nature, in and out of the bedroom, so sex shops are a little nerve-wracking. Nevertheless, I...

SCARLETT

  • Bondage Bliss

    Bondage Bliss

    @scarlettimes I have spoken about my perfectionist, control-oriented personality before; it’s not a trait I find shameful or shy away from, although some people can find it off-putting. You wouldn’t be entirely off the mark to suggest that this behaviour...

  • It’s a Hard Knocked Up Life

    It’s a Hard Knocked Up Life

      @scarlettimes SCARLETT Okay, the title is a bit misleading. I’m not pregnant again, I’m just emotional about the whole ordeal and really wanting to talk about it. Currently, bitty-baby is on my lap, tiny fists latched into my shirt...

  • I’VE BEEN COCK-BLOCKED BY A BABY

    I’VE BEEN COCK-BLOCKED BY A BABY

    @scarlettimes  Scarlett Although my body post-pregnancy has been feeling all over the place, my libido certainly has not! So I’m here to tell you an anecdote about being ‘baby-blocked’ from romantic evenings with my fiancé. Having a kid is a...

JEN

  • Orgasms have layers (like onions)

    Orgasms have layers (like onions)

    @jenderful JEN As a masturbation connoisseur (I say, praising myself), I have experimented plenty over the years and will continue doing just so. Hard and fast, slow and sultry, in the bath…you know I can give you a review, and...

  • THE PROS (and pitfalls) OF LOVING ALONE

    THE PROS (and pitfalls) OF LOVING ALONE

    @jenderful JEN As someone who blogs about sex, I get a lot of interesting (read: weird, invasive, personal, downright bizarre) questions thrown my way. And yet, time and time again, the one that confounds me most is   “If you like...

  • First Post 01/24/25

    First Post 01/24/25

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