THE PROS (and pitfalls) OF LOVING ALONE
@jenderful JEN
As someone who blogs about sex, I get a lot of interesting (read: weird, invasive, personal, downright bizarre) questions thrown my way. And yet, time and time again, the one that confounds me most is
“If you like sex so much, why are you abstinent?”
It’s true; I go on dates when it strikes my fancy, let a girl or guy take me out all prettied-up, but I’m never really going home with anyone. It’s a point of contention between my friends (and you readers, I’m sure), to wonder if I have incredibly high standards, or am just frustratingly picky.
Sweethearts, I’m bi all-round: it’s both! One of the greatest things I have found in being single is this continued reassurance that I can know my own body. I can fathom my own wants and needs, and satisfy myself while attaining them. Being Filipino-American, I kind of grew up with a classic pressure of career, husband, kids. My parents were pretty lax about this anyway, but the cultural ideas stuck with me for a long time, and caused me to make some…questionable decisions early on in my adulthood. I’m thirty-two now, and I’ve been consistently single for about ten years - entirely of my own choice for at least five of those.
It always seems silly to me to relate sex of any kind to spirituality, but at this moment, I have to. To be connected that way with my own body has become a priority in my life, and I enjoy setting away moments to do so. To experiment, try new things, or give a good old favorite another go. It’s exciting, it’s meditative, hell, it’s fun to write down and rate in my journal. Cliche, but a girl has got to know herself. My standards are high because sex is the least of a relationship to me when I don’t necessarily need another person involved to get myself off. I’m picky because I have all the time and rights to be. Most of all, I’m happy.
“Does it ever get boring?”
Come on now readers, say it with me: Only boring people get bored. And I can keep it as new and exciting as I want by dipping a hand into my closet. [link on word]
@odd1ty ODETTE
HELP I JUSR WALKED INTO MY BEST FRIENDS BATHROOM AND HER SUCTION DILDO WAS STILL STUCK TO THE SHOWER WALL
>>reply from @jenderful JEN
boo! jumpscare!!
>>reply from @odd1ty ODETTE
AAAAAAHHHHH
@scarlettimes SCARLETT
Jen is chasing Odette around the apartment with her dildo. The cat is chasing Jen. I, like a normal person, am drinking their wines, because they’ve obviously had enough.
Written by Spencer M.F. Rodrick
