Spilling The Beans

  • Do Men Really Have a Higher Sex Drive Than Women?

    Do Men Really Have a Higher Sex Drive Than Women?

    I couldn’t help but wonder... why do we assume that men are these insatiable sex-driven creatures while women are just passively waiting to be wooed? For years, pop culture, outdated science, and locker room talk have pushed the narrative that...

  • Pillow Talk: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed

    Pillow Talk: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed

      I couldn’t help but wonder—why is it so much easier to ask for oat milk in your latte than to ask for what you really want in bed? We live in a world where communication is everywhere; texts, emails,...

  • Are Vibrators Bad for You? Let’s Set the Record Straight.

    Are Vibrators Bad for You? Let’s Set the Record Straight.

      I couldn’t help but wonder... why is it that in 2025, with women breaking glass ceilings and redefining societal norms, there’s still so much misinformation about vibrators? Of all the things to worry about, why are some of us...

  • Is It Ever Okay to Fake It? Let’s Get Real.

    Is It Ever Okay to Fake It? Let’s Get Real.

      I couldn’t help but wonder… in a world where authenticity is prized and #nofilter is celebrated, why do so many of us still fake it in the bedroom? And no, I’m not just talking about the Oscar-worthy moans or...

  • The Caribbean Perspective: The O Gap

    The Caribbean Perspective: The O Gap

    The Orgasm Gap from a Caribbean Woman’s Perspective As Caribbean women, we carry with us a legacy of strength, resilience, and pride. We’ve learned to navigate life’s challenges with grace, juggling cultural expectations, family dynamics, and our own aspirations. But...

  • Why Do We Have Fictional Women Blogging About Sex?

    Why Do We Have Fictional Women Blogging About Sex?

    Here at BEAN, we believe that  closing the O gap starts with educating and sharing stories. The concept of sex for women is still so taboo, so normalizing conversations around sex is step number one.    What better way to...

ODDETTE

  • What To Do When You’re Doing It (Wrong)

    What To Do When You’re Doing It (Wrong)

    @odd1ty In the midst of sex with my boyfriend, I had a realization that sort of took the wind out of my sails. Being the one on top, I opened my eyes to watch him enjoying himself, and thought ‘oh,...

  • I’ve Never Had an Orgasm

    I’ve Never Had an Orgasm

    @odd1ty ODETTE …At least not in my relationship. I love my boyfriend to bits, and you all know I’m more than willing to wax poetic about how good we have it. And the thing is, I’ve never had a long...

  • Entirely Un-Sexy Escape Rooms

    Entirely Un-Sexy Escape Rooms

    @odd1ty Odette Or otherwise known as ‘adult stores’ with stuff like ‘XXX’ on all the windows. Let's be clear—I am a timid person by nature, in and out of the bedroom, so sex shops are a little nerve-wracking. Nevertheless, I...

SCARLETT

  • Bondage Bliss

    Bondage Bliss

    @scarlettimes I have spoken about my perfectionist, control-oriented personality before; it’s not a trait I find shameful or shy away from, although some people can find it off-putting. You wouldn’t be entirely off the mark to suggest that this behaviour...

  • It’s a Hard Knocked Up Life

    It’s a Hard Knocked Up Life

      @scarlettimes SCARLETT Okay, the title is a bit misleading. I’m not pregnant again, I’m just emotional about the whole ordeal and really wanting to talk about it. Currently, bitty-baby is on my lap, tiny fists latched into my shirt...

  • I’VE BEEN COCK-BLOCKED BY A BABY

    I’VE BEEN COCK-BLOCKED BY A BABY

    @scarlettimes  Scarlett Although my body post-pregnancy has been feeling all over the place, my libido certainly has not! So I’m here to tell you an anecdote about being ‘baby-blocked’ from romantic evenings with my fiancé. Having a kid is a...

JEN

  • Orgasms have layers (like onions)

    Orgasms have layers (like onions)

    @jenderful JEN As a masturbation connoisseur (I say, praising myself), I have experimented plenty over the years and will continue doing just so. Hard and fast, slow and sultry, in the bath…you know I can give you a review, and...

  • THE PROS (and pitfalls) OF LOVING ALONE

    THE PROS (and pitfalls) OF LOVING ALONE

    @jenderful JEN As someone who blogs about sex, I get a lot of interesting (read: weird, invasive, personal, downright bizarre) questions thrown my way. And yet, time and time again, the one that confounds me most is   “If you like...

  • First Post 01/24/25

    First Post 01/24/25

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