Valentine’s Day Survival Guide: How to Make the Most of February 14th (No Matter Your Mood)
I couldn’t help but wonder… why does Valentine’s Day always feel like a test we didn’t sign up for? Whether you’re blissfully in love, fiercely single, freshly heartbroken, or just completely over it, February 14th has a way of making us question everything. But what if—just what if—we flipped the script and made it about us?
No matter your relationship status, here’s how to survive and maybe even enjoy Valentine’s Day, on your own terms.
If You’re in Love: Turn Up the Intimacy
Forget overpriced prix fixe menus—ditch the crowds and plan a night that actually means something. Think love letters, homemade dinners, and a little extra spice in the bedroom. And yes, if you want to introduce a toy (or two), consider it a Valentine’s gift to both of you.
Try This: Write each other a love note, turn off your phones, and create a night of connection—whether that means deep conversations, laughter, or something more hands-on.
If You’re Single: Treat Yourself Like the Main Event
Why wait for someone else to spoil you? Buy yourself the flowers, book the massage, get the fancy dinner, and most importantly—make time for pleasure.
Try This: Have a solo date night with your favorite meal, a movie you love, and a little personal quality time. Bonus points if you treat yourself to a new self-care item (hello, luxury vibrator).
If You’re in a Situationship: Set the Tone
Navigating the what are we? on Valentine’s Day can be tricky, but instead of waiting for them to define it, define it for yourself. Want something romantic? Suggest it. Not into grand gestures? Keep it chill. Whatever you do, don’t just wait around for texts that may or may not come.
Try This: Set your expectations early. And if you’re not feeling seen or valued? Maybe it’s time to reconsider that situationship.
If You’re Freshly Heartbroken: Feel It, Then Flip It
Breakups around Valentine’s Day hit different—but here’s the thing: you’re still here, still incredible, and still worthy of love (especially from yourself). Feel the emotions, but don’t let the holiday take you down.
Try This: Gather your best friends for a Galentine’s night in, complete with wine, takeout, and a dramatic movie (think Kill Bill, not The Notebook). And if you’re ready—write that “never sent” closure letter and burn it.
If You’re Just Over It: Rebel a Little
Valentine’s Day is just another day—so why not use it as an excuse to do whatever the hell you want? Plan a totally unromantic activity, treat it like a normal Tuesday, or even make it an Anti-Valentine’s celebration.
Try This: Organize a “Singles-Only” night out, volunteer for a good cause, or binge-watch horror movies instead of rom-coms. Nothing says self-love like completely ignoring the expectations.
The Bottom Line? Make It Yours
No matter how you’re feeling this Valentine’s Day, one thing’s for sure: you don’t need a relationship to make it special. Romance isn’t about a date on the calendar—it’s about how you show up for yourself. So whether you’re cuddled up with a partner, vibing solo, or flipping off Cupid entirely, this February 14th is yours to own. 💋
How are you spending your Valentine’s Day? Comment below!
